What To Do When You Feel Defeated

Everyone will have or has had moments in their lives when they feel defeated, like nothing they do is right. I too have my moments. Whether it's work, school, family or friends, there are millions of things in the world that could potentially bring us down, and thats just life. The important thing to remember is that you are the only person that can lift yourself up. Everyone bounces back from situations in different ways, but for those looking for some ideas, here are some tactics I use to lift my spirits and get me back on track.

1. TAKE A BREAK

It's easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of your daily life. Even on the weekends or your days off from your normal schedule may seem like they're not enough and your to-do list might seem never ending. Cut yourself some slack and realize when you truly need a break. Even if it's for just one day, taking some time to de-stress and focus on yourself can really help every once in a while. Just pick one day when you need it the most to disconnect from everything around you and do the things that you enjoy. Plan a weekend getaway or a spa day at home. You can even do something as simple as stay in your PJs all day and binge watch your favorite Netflix series, 

2. DONT BEAT YOURSELF UP

Often times we set goals for ourselves that we can't necessarily meet in the time we would hope to. It's great to set goals, but it's okay if those goals aren't met exactly when you had planned. Don't beat yourself up over it. Goals are set to push you beyond your comfort zone and as long as you tried your best, know that it's okay. Realize that you are human, you can only do so much.

3. SET NEW GOALS

Disappointed over goals you didn't meet? Set new ones! Instead of bringing yourself down over what wasn't done, revamp your list and set new goals that excite and motivate you! Along with things that we HAVE to do (career wise, school wise, etc.), it's important to set goals that are simply there because they make you happy! Want to learn how to paint? Want to be more active? Start reading more? Go for it and set it as one of your priorities. Not all goals have to be boring. Have fun with it and include things you love to do or would love to do!

4. SEE THE POSITIVE

I know sometimes it can be a real task to look for positives in certain situations, but you will find the positive in a bad situation if you look hard enough. Be grateful for what you have rather than be upset over what you don't. You have the power to choose your mentality. Feeling defeated is a choice. It may seem like it just happens on it's own but you do have the power to stop allowing situations or circumstances from bringing you down. This may be the most difficult task of them all as it takes a while to adjust to (something I still struggle with) but it's absolutely worth it in the long run, so it's worth a try!

"You are not defined by your defeats but how many times you recover from the fall"

Short post, but I figured if I have a topic in mind a small post is better than no post at all so there you go! More to come!